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men like to think that they’re constantly building - like there’s a higher purpose, like they’re moving towards something - whether this is happening for them or not, it’s rare that you’d find someone who knows what they’re doing but doesn’t understand this
after just some success, decision making not only becomes a harder process, but also crucial

because one wrong decision can destroy everything they’ve been working for
this is not unlikely - this is evident in stories we see everyday; painful but real
it normally takes a few months after one wrong decisions to negate 50 correct ones

also, after just some success, after laying some foundation in place, men operate from a place of peace - most men tend to get addicted to the state they find themselves in when things are working in their favor, especially in their careers and life

when single but not looking for someone to join them, men would have this safe haven that they believe they have cultivated up till this point - like this is the stuff that no one can take from them, they can do whatever they want and no one would owe them anything - they have nothing to prove and they have zero reasons to stress about the future, if things are working
for single people in this place that are looking for a relationship with someone - in their minds they’re leaving this peaceful state for one that’s still vague - some men can’t stay long without a romantic partner, and those won’t probably feel what i’m talking about, because for them, both states would feel like suffering - but for a whole, peaceful, accomplished man, that’s been single for long, it’s not easy to leave this place
those men have to fight the inner battle and convince themselves they need to sacrifice parts of their peace at least on the short term to enter a relationship with a woman
this brings the point that marriage is sacrifice - if you can’t compromise, you won’t be able to marry - simple as that!

that’s why i’m not used to approach - almost all women i knew they came my way, i didn’t do anything - and this doesn’t have to be the way to do it, but it just the position i found myself in - so i’m not used to approaching women - i’m just used to embracing whatever comes my way
for long i have also been feeling imposter syndrome partly because of stupid stuff in my head and thanks to my overthinking - i was always thinking that there’e more to do and i never appreciated what i got done - this reflected on my ability to approach people in general not just women because i was always thinking i’m not enough that i’m not where i’d want to be

i found that if ‘where you’d want to be’ is unfathomable to other people, then probably where you are right now is impressive
then at some point when i stopped thinking like an imposter, i started seeing all the value i’ve been accumulating over the years, and i also believing to the core that i don’t need to be more, i just need to be
and just with this simple flip, i started seeing its effect with people i know and people i talk with - people sense when you think you’re whole versus when you think you’re not
so i really wasn’t doing it for anyone, i was doing it for myself, and everything followed
i now have no problem talking to anyone in any setting, could be a man or a woman, im not afraid to ask and im not afraid of rejection - and this provided me with infinite upside

with every no, comes another 10 yeses - would you deprive yourself of the 10 yeses just because you’re afraid of one little no?

there’s lots of potential that is hidden behind you thinking you’re not enough
when you change the language by which you talk to yourself, everyone starts using it while talking to you