About time I noticed it’s an essential to have.
There’s a not-so-valid theory that tells you you’re basically protected from each & everyone if you don’t trust anyone.
But this costs a lot. Can you imagine a life lived like this?
From young age, I’ve been raised to not trust anybody, hold on to the limits, and be extremely rational in why I’d approach certain people.
And then, with time, I noticed this had me missing out.
There was zero room for “crazy”, zero room for spontaneity, and zero room for lessons.
Growing up I’d realize there are all sorts of clues, that presumably could tell when someone is having bad intention or dealing in bad faith.
And provided that some of them are as clear as day, I don’t see any reason not to trust people by default shouldn’t they reveal anything suspicious. As opposed to what I’ve been taught in my childhood.
Some of these clues being:
1/ Inconsistencies
Lies don’t add up by default. Even if they’re extremely smart or cautious.
It takes you a lot less effort to spot inconsistencies in what someone is saying than them trying to put together their version of events, had they been lying.
Pay attention to any discrepancies or conflicting information.
Easy to spot.
2/ Communication
Some people like/try to control the conversation, change the topic, or avoid answering direct questions.
3/ Context
If someone you just knew tries to be overly friendly, offers unsolicited help, or offers any kind of value without a clear sign of what’s in it for them, this should be it.
4/ Intuition
Intuition speaks volumes. Lots of times you need nothing more.
Even if you can't put your finger on what's wrong, your intuition is often a reliable indicator that something is off. Better to be safe than sorry.
End of day, there is lots of life & value in what you could get if you’re free.
But free doesn’t mean idiot.
The more people we know, the easier it gets to spot weird agendas,
but just don’t take anybody as a conspirator.