Begs the question, how far could we go before we are hit with reality?
I’ve seen people take massive losses just to keep their high ego intact. And I’ve seen people make the wildest sacrifices to get what or where they want. Where is the line?
When exactly are you supposed to take a stand for your ego, refrain from making any more sacrifices and have a good justification for it?
Because answer to that is not easy, when we see people drawing this line too early or too late, we can’t get it. We jump to the conclusion that there’s something wrong with them.
From the outside, it seems so easy to make the right move, take the right decision. From the inside, it’s not. People are different; we have different capacities when it comes to dealing with things.
This all seems so high-level but takeaway is I’m recently trying to regulate my ego’s highs & lows. For long I believed that all hate comes from the mind. I was trying to use several mindfulness approaches to neutralize my rhythm to try overcome that.
Until recently I may have realized that all hate comes from the ego, not the mind.
Our ego is the main source of all hate projected onto reality.
We only hate because we’re angry or we’re afraid.
Both emotions resonate with ego.
We try so hard to protect images we painted of ourselves at all costs. We don’t want to see or hear anything that tells us otherwise. We take conflicting external nuances from people as if they’re end-all be-all. We forget that whatever comes out of people is not a reflection of us but of them. If we could just not overthink how people perceive us, we would be just fine.
Most important thing is how we perceive ourselves. Figure how you think about yourself but don’t get too attached to that perception. Accept the changes, that it’s a journey, what you are is not set in stone. You are an ever-evolving project, your most important project.
And then when someone says something that may or may not fit into your description of yourself, it’s either: they’re wrong because they got other underlying reasons to have said so (out of your control), or: they are right but this shouldn’t really be a problem since you’re still evolving.
With that said, you should pay close attention to the intention of people around you. No one is inherently bad, no one is 100% good (unless they’re your family or whatever) – but with right intention and right boundaries you’d do just fine with 99% of people.
Takeaways:
- Lead with empathy
- Keep an alert eye at all times